I actually enjoy being Introverted.
According to an article by Elizabeth Svoboda in Psychology Today, being a loner/soloist/ isn't such a terrible thing. Introverted people make up one quarter of the population. They aren't less sociable they just engage in the world a little differently.
Svoboda quotes Psychologist Jonathon Cheek for stating that "some people simply have a low need for affiliation." She also mentions another psychologist, Amanda Guyer, who "has found that socially withdrawn people have increased sensitivity to all kinds of emotional interactions and sensory cues, which may mean that they find pleasure where others do not."
Now they are all talking about loners who are voluntarily exploring Life from the inside and not those who are pathologically imprisoned by phobias.
I would guess that 99% of the Bloggers that I enjoy reading are basically Introverts like me who spend a lot of time in their heads. I think that is normal, and those who starve for exterior stimulation and need to be where the action is, are weird...although I can and will make a public spectacle of myself every once in a while to prove that I am normal.
I have no problem being on stage and making a speech to a couple hundred people or tearin' up the dance floor at a social event. I just don't need to do that very often because I don't get my strokes from that.
My rewards in Life come from intimate moments with people that I care about in one on one situations or in small groups, and from those wonderful 'light bulb moments' that happen every once in a while.
I am quite content to view the world as an inner journey and would never get a Lonerotomy. Most of the people on Earth seem to think that being a loner is being a freak and anti social. They picture tortured souls shuffling around a Penthouse in Vegas with 8 inch toenails hidden in Kleenex boxes and peeing in storage jars like poor Mr. Howard Hughes.
The Psychologists mentioned in the article speculate that Introverts have an added sensitivty "thanks to their strong emotional antennae" and "withdrawn people have a very high sensory acuity". DUH!
"Because loners are good at noticing subtleties that other people miss they are well suited for careers that require close observation, like writing and scientific research."
Do you consider yourself to be more
Introverted or Extroverted?
By the way is a 50/50 combo realistic or even possible?