What is Your HUMOR Style?
My favorite zine is Psychology Today. I am fascinated at how evolution has molded us homo escapeons into such bizarre creatures. Trapped in a nonsensical world we have developed gigantic brains (although we apparently only use 10% of the available space on our hard drive ) with a sense of humor that no other creatures seem to have.
This month the power of humor is examined. One of the featured articles, Rod Martin's Humor Styles Questionnaire, describes the prevailing styles.
1. PUT-DOWN HUMOR
This is an aggressive style that is used to manipulate and criticize through teasing and ridicule. They cite Ann Coulter as an example. The just kidding defense is used to assuage confrontation but apparently this type can take a toll on relationships. I scored very high in this category (no really?) but apparently it does not mean that I am any less well adjusted.
2. BONDING HUMOR
Witty banter, fun to be around and mood lightening people like Ellen DeGeneres. The we're all alike and in this together and we all find the same things funny style is universally attractive. The dark side is a feeling of inclusion and that means that somebody is on the outs. I scored high in this one as well so nyeh!.
3. HATE-ME HUMOR
Being the butt of the joke for the amusement of others. The dark side is that it erodes self respect and can lead to deppression which has ironically taken the lives of so many comedians like Chris Farley. Self loathing can make others uneasy in large doses but a little at a time can get you invited to a lot of social gatherings. I scored very high here too sigh....
4. LAUGHING AT LIFE HUMOR
The current King of this type of humor is Dave Barry.
Someone who doesn't take themselves too serious. These types make you step back and laugh at the absurdities of life. This is a healthy self enhancing type. Martin suggests that this type of humor doesn't require other people to entertain because you can make yourself laugh and enjoy life. My score: High, honest.
I guess that you can have a combo sense of humor and once again trying to package human behavior into a nice little package all tied up with a bow proves to be impossible. Obviously professional comedians need a style to be branded and established but I am talking about us everyday garden variety people.
Like most of you lot I do make an effort to find something funny about most things. Some days I try to soften the sting of horrible circumstances with humor and others I want to f*cking scream.
Perhaps that is why so many of you are having a hard time pigeon-holing me. One day I am going on and on about evolution or religion, the next day sex, next day politics. I also leave mushy comments that are emotionally charged and I drop flippant remarks that may cause some consternation. Whatever.
I am just like you.
We humans are all very complex and our ever changing moods reflect this.
Oh sure I come across as a Liberal Agnostic Smartass on most issues but I desperately adore connecting with the Bonding style humor as much as the other three types.
I am still a newbie blogger so perhaps I will eventually settle into a more permanent rut, I mean style. Hey I haven't written anything for 20 years so give me a break!
What I have noticed on my blog roll is that I am attracted to the brainiac bantering of the smart n' snarky set and for balance I temper this predilection by visiting all of the gentle peaceful poets and the artsy esoteric searchers. I love playing devil's advocate and yet I race to bolster the rights of the underdog even if they are absolutely 100% wrong. Overall I try to have fun because Life is short and other people are what make it interesting and worth living.